Life Changes

Entering a new decade is often a time to pause and reflect on our lives, particularly when reaching middle age. For 50-year-old American men, the average remaining life expectancy is 28 more years; for women, it’s 32.

The magnetic field that has always pulled me along in this life has been my sense of wonder—which fed my wondering and wandering.

Life is not just something that happens to us. It is something we co-create.

The majority of people traumatized in childhood do not recognize the fact, and few people in 2020 would have readily named the pandemic as a trauma.

A knowledge of basic psychology can be extremely useful in giving us insights into our psyches so that we can learn our true needs. Anne Miller, a friend of mine, was a mother of five children when she started studying psychology on her own. From this she learned that she wanted to become a lawyer, and...

I would like to suggest that the holidays don’t really matter and there is nothing you really need to do about them. Such a suggestion, of course, reads like heresy. 

For eons we lived in a world where change was so slow that a snails’ pace would by comparison seem like a racing car from the famous Le Mans car race. Stability was the name of the game...

By mid-life, most of us have faced a significant loss such as the passing of a loved one, losing a job, or the dissolution of a formative relationship. These painful experiences can leave us feeling like we’ve taken a wrecking ball to the heart.

We all know the expression, "You're as old as you think or feel." Too many people give up on activities just because of age. The real danger here is the giving up on life...

Sometimes, when we are laser-focused on our goals and making our mark on the world, the relentless activity can become all-encompassing. In pursuit of a good life, we can sometimes forget to enjoy what is right in front of us.

To create change in your life and to make a better mark on the world, you will need to cultivate a new mindset.

When your story isn’t working for you, when it seems to be influencing what you’re experiencing and causing you unhappiness, you can change it. And playing with metaphors can help you to do that.

When your story isn’t working for you, when it seems to be influencing what you’re experiencing and causing you unhappiness, you can change it. And playing with metaphors can help you to do that.

People who return to their hometowns tend to be better positioned to create change and spur development because they already have connections and a better understanding of the community context. I think there's power in returning to a place where people know you

All it takes is turning on the news, reading the newspaper, or talking to people these days to be reminded that men’s behavior is getting a lot of attention. The #times up, #metoo and Black Lives Matter movements provided the requisite spark to raise awareness about toxic, masculine behavior.

All it takes is turning on the news, reading the newspaper, or talking to people these days to be reminded that men’s behavior is getting a lot of attention. The #times up, #metoo and Black Lives Matter movements provided the requisite spark to raise awareness about toxic, masculine behavior.

I have good news: There’s a way to recalibrate your focus and take control of your busy life. It all comes down to paying attention to the three things you do have control over.

I have good news: There’s a way to recalibrate your focus and take control of your busy life. It all comes down to paying attention to the three things you do have control over.

At times, we have to let go of what is to make room for what will be. Of course, the very idea of change — small or major — usually produces at least some discomfort and...

In the midst of intense suffering, an amazing transformation can occur. It sometimes happens to people who have been through periods of severe addiction, depression, bereavement, and so on. I call this phenomenon “transformation through turmoil” (or TTT, for short).

In the midst of intense suffering, an amazing transformation can occur. It sometimes happens to people who have been through periods of severe addiction, depression, bereavement, and so on. I call this phenomenon “transformation through turmoil” (or TTT, for short).

In the physical world, things have a past and a future, a beginning, and an end. For example, I’m sitting on a chair in my office at my desk that I’ve had for more than fifty years. At some point, this chair...

In the physical world, things have a past and a future, a beginning, and an end. For example, I’m sitting on a chair in my office at my desk that I’ve had for more than fifty years. At some point, this chair...